Gombessa Ok, great example. I appreciate that. What if, to use the block tool, you have to click a check box that says, "If I'm caught gossiping about (blocked) in the public forum, I accept that this violates community rules, and I'll be banned." Then add a community rule.
My personal preference is to ask someone directly and politely to change their behavior toward me. If they don't, then ignore. (But on the other forum, ignore only partially works, so I'd like it to work better.) And the 3rd strike is not me having to convince anyone else that my feelings matter. I get to push a button and control my own experience.
Ultimately, I can't control what other people do. I can only control what I do. People will gossip in private conversations if they want to, and there isn't anything I can do about that, so I don't worry about it. If someone tries to pull me into gossip (ill intent, convincing me to agree) in public or private, I try to ignore it, side-step it, or just ask the other person to stop, because I don't enjoy it at all. I would block someone for relentless gossip! 🤣🤣🤣
So, I like rules. I like norms and customs and solutions. And I like conversations where we try to meet everyone's needs. Thank you for having this conversation.
