Emeton Iām not sure if thereās a difference between playing along with a recording but the issues of latency with e-drums are well known and are not something I made up.
I don't think you're making it up, but I don't believe they are well known, since I don't believe it's true in the first place. There's no more reason to worry about latency with e-drums than there is with a DP: the same kind of technology is involved whether you're hitting a drum pad or a piano key. Of course, latency can be an issue with either if you're running it to a computer and using VST software, but that's not because of the e-drums (or DP) themselves (unless it's just a bad drum sound module).
People have been playing DPs and e-drums in live band settings without altering their technique for decades. My wife doesn't play her e-drums any differently than she plays her acoustic set, and the timing is the same for any human's ability to perceive it, just like DP vs. AP. I've even played along with her with both, no problem.
The link you've provided seems to confirm this: with the right setup, there's no problem. There's plenty of other things we can Google as well, but at the end of the day, you just need to play with e-drums and hear whether there's a problem or not rather than theorizing about it.
Anyway, I don't want this to turn into a big fight or anything, but I feel the need to push back a little because this is how weird internet "wisdom" gets circulated, and we got enough of that at PW ... MandM, I suggest you simply play with your drummer and see if you hear any problems. If not, then, well, no problem! If so, then see if something needs to be adjusted. But please don't force them to go out and buy an acoustic set because of something you heard from one person on the internet.
OK, I'll sign out now. š